Getting Ready for My New “Mommy” Shoes

It’s been a little while since I’ve updated you on some of my progress. In my last post I felt like I was FREAKING OUT. I was worried about fulfilling my career duties (which trust me, can be PRETTY demanding) and adding my motherly duties on top of it. At times it feels daunting and nearly impossible, but I know so many women do it… So I should be able to do it to right? Thinking about all that mothers do REALLY makes me think we deserve medals or something.

Luckily I got to have a conversation with Real Mom’s Life Coach, Leslie Gail. First off, let me tell you… I had no idea what a “life coach” really was or did, or why one would need one but after talking to her I can see why they are so helpful. Sometimes you just need a friend to remind you that “you can do it” and help show you how to get there. It’s especially nice when it’s someone who’s “been there done that.”

Over the past couple of weeks I’ve been thinking a lot about how I normally like to plan my life out to a T. I like having goals that I’m working for and I like knowing that I can be “the best” at something. Becoming a mother is something I know it going to be hard and I worried a lot about how it would change me as a person. But then all of a sudden it just clicked. I don’t have to define myself one way or another, or act like a totally different person once I’m a mom. I know my baby and I will have to do some conforming to each other but that doesn’t mean we have to fight tooth and nail to change each other.

Leslie reminded me of a thought process I used to use a lot to keep things in perspective. She said “On your deathbed what will you wish you spent less time on?” I often ask myself “In 100 years, what will matter?” I believe in life after death but I believe I’m not taking my wealth with me… So why stress over wealth? I can try to better my life but it’s not worth spending my entire life stressing over. I need to keep that perspective.

A little friend I babysit (Spawnie's Future BFF) and I at work

I think motherhood will change me some, but it’ll be gradual and not as drastic as I originally thought. I’m going to go with the flow, keep doing my thing, keep setting goals… But give myself some slack if it takes longer to achieve them. I’m a blessed woman with so many opportunities and talents and having my beautiful baby I’m sure will only open my eyes to more opportunities for my family. Having my baby will better my life. I know there will be tough times, but I’m so blessed to have gotten this far, I can only imagine things getting better, and I can’t wait.